What I like most of all is my freedom
I enjoy very much my work as a solo entrepreneur, what I like most of all is my freedom to choose what I’ll use my time on. Don’t get me wrong – it sure is hard work having a business, and I can’t remember when I have had a week or two weeks holiday. However I find great pleasure and it is so satisfying to work the way I do, where I am coaching, facilitating, etc people all over the world manifesting their dreams and at the same time manifesting my own dreams. I have the privilege to observe the transformation in people when they experience being in resonance with their authentic self and it is sooo much worth it. According to Carl Gustav Jung we have 3 births in our life; the physical birth, birth of the ego and birth of the spiritual awakening to our authentic self. The ego is the part of us that keep us trapped in the Hamster wheel. It is the part of us that is conditioned to social conformity. As I see it the ego has to take its place so to speak “on the back seat”, and let the authentic True Self lead the way in our life. So the transformation I observe is the process where people moves from fear, frustration and anxiety to trust, satisfaction and calmness and what I notice most of all in people – I can se their eyes light up when they realise that life is all about living an authentic life.
Why is it that people don’t respect and live their authentic life from the beginning? Let’s look into fear. We all feel fear sometimes, but what was a natural feeling of being in danger once a while e.g. because of a lion as in nature, the everyday fear in the moderne society is breaking people. We are not created to be in a survival mode all the time, it is exhausting and I think that a lot of the problem with public health issues are caused by the constant fear propaganda going on in the media. The toxic propaganda on the outside becomes toxic inside, and our body is constantly trying to tell us, this is not natural, and so we feel exhausted and alienated at the same time. If we are not doing anything about it, what I observe is, the light in the eyes are gone Fear as propaganda is a manipulation tool, no doubt about that. Don’t forget that some people find pleasure in controlling other people and keeping them occupied with entertainment etc so that they can harvest the energy for themselves e.g. more power.
Like a bird in a cage
It starts with putting people in conditioning surroundings aka institutions. Look at our society today; we place our small children and elders in institutionalised cages, and meanwhile we the adult “workforce” are stressing around in a Hamster wheel 5 days a week (not me anymore though). Meanwhile our children are growing up and our elders die in despair. In my optic this can only continue as long people are letting it continue. Every personal decision about our life we have distributed to “Experts”. Today we see a minority of the younger generation doing something else than the traditional Hamster wheel life, and I’m so grateful for that on their behalf. They have a sparkle in their eyes and an open body position – “I am here as me and it is my life. I choose how I want to live my life”. If only more people could acknowledge that in their own lives before it is too late. I once read a book by Bonnie Wades “The top 5 things people regret before they die”, and the top 5 things are; 1)I wish I’ve had the courage to live a life as I wanted it instead of living up to other peoples expectations, 2)I wish that I didn’t work so hard,3) I wish that I’ve had the courage to express my true feelings,4) I wish I’ve had more contact with my friends, 5)I wish I’ve allowed myself to be more happy. The Message in the book is crystal clear to me; It is your life – your choice! The book is also a reminder that a majority live their life pleasing other people, and thereby creating their own bird cage, feeling stuck and unsatisfied. I have been in many different countries and thereby many different cultures. One of the things that caught my eye was e.g. in the Mediterranean area the children and the elders participation in the day to day social practice, they are not hidden away on institutions all day. The energy I experienced when a grandmother proudly showed her 6 week old granddaughter to her friends at the local café an early morning at 9 am, was touching. There was laughter and storytelling and hours went by at the café – grandmothers and grandfathers, granddaughters and grandsons – only interrupted at siesta time at 1.pm when the “work-force” took time for 3-4 hours siesta. This experience make me smile and I hope that people in northern western countries remember that a core essence in life is to prioritise to be present in your day to day life together with your dearest relationships.
Society system “constructions” is unnatural
The whole “construction” that you as a mother delivers you newborn or very small child to complete strangers in an institution with a massive amount of other small children, is a “construction” I’ve never seem to understand. I have had lot of discussions with people who seem to accept the common idea of leaving a newborn baby in their own rooms away from the parents. To me this is so unnatural to do, and a newborn baby reacts to this by crying. Then some parents have an idea, that a new born baby must learn to sleep alone (!) what crazy idea is that? A new born baby is totally dependent on parental care, that’s why the baby naturally is calling out for help by crying. Leaving new borns by themselves and not reacting on their crying is not a child perspective but a logical adult perspective, that makes no sense to a new born baby. I’ve once read a book on this and it confirmed my assumptions of leaving new born alone in a room all by themselves “learning to sleep alone from the start”is devastating to a new born. The book is “Baby Wisdom” by Deborah Jackson who writes a lot about natural parenting. I recommend that you read it – I surely have recommended it a lot to my psychological students. One of the takes from the book was a study on so called “primitive cultures” who carry their new born an small children on their body, and a comparative study on so called “civilised cultures”. The study result was that new born and small children from the “primitive cultures” are not crying as much as new born and small children from the “civilised cultures” – I’ll let it be up to your imagination why is it so do you think? I think it’s obvious, and it makes me so happy to see that some of the younger generations seem to get it.
