The “Ordinary” is an individual feeling
Have you ever wondered that some words have double meaning? One of the words that have double meaning is the word “Ordinary”. The “Ordinary” can mean tacky, not special and simple, but “Ordinary” can also mean something extra special, exceptional and supernatural. When I talk about “breaking free from the ordinary” I mean the Ordinary that people do in an everyday life, that give them a feeling of being stuck, but people can also live an Ordinary life and feel fulfilled and extra special. The Ordinary in a “cave” or a self created “prison” that makes people unhappy and stuck is quite the opposite of living a simple Ordinary life at home or on the go and have a feeling of being rich, having enough and satisfied. A really good indicator of what kind of “Ordinary” life people live is their energy. If they are constantly complaining, feeling low energy and criticising other people for taking initiatives, there is a good chance that it is the fear of leaving their comfort zone that is the real problem. This kind of “Ordinary” is suffocating and often make people depressed. On the other hand, when people are living an “Ordinary” life where there is curiosity, an openness for learning something new outside the comfort zone or a satisfaction for the simple daily small things that often gives a feeling of gratitude and more energy, then we’re talking about a liberating feeling that gives people a sense of meaning in life.
The fact is there is no such thing as stagnation in Nature. Energy is always moving, and the moving can be in a very small place where people feel happiness and gratitude, or it can be in a huge place where people feel stuck. It has everything to do with the feeling of being aligned with your core energy. If that energy is aligned living a van-life travelling around the world or it is aligned living in a small apartment the feeling of being stuck is not there, but rather a feeling of resonance. That is why there is no “one fits all” logic except that in this case about the “Ordinary” the individual feeling of being stuck or being aligned gives a clue on what kind of Ordinary we’re talking about. I once read a quote by Robin Sharma “Don’t live the same year 75 times and call it a life” and at the time when I read it I was kind of frustrated and had a feeling of dissonance in my life. This quote made it clear to me, that I could continue living a life in dissonance, year in and year out, but the only one who could change it and live my precious life in resonance was me. No one, absolutely no one else then me has the responsibility to change my life to get out of my comfort zone and into my life. So I did I got out of my comfort zone, and the strange thing happened when I took the first step out of the “Ordinary”, life brought me so many possibilities that made my soul sing and my energy more aligned.
Janus the two-headed roman god of beginning and ending
Do you know about Janus from the roman mythology? The face of Janus symbolic meaning can be to confront yourself with an important decision. Janus symbolise change and Janus or the Janitor is a kind of “gate keeper” in the process. Stepping out of our comfort zone and leaving an Ordinary life in dissonance with an intention maybe to live an Ordinary life in resonance, is a change where we are our own “gatekeeper” in life. Beginning a new kind of “Ordinary” aligned and in resonance – ending an old kind of “Ordinary” in dissonance. A situation that has several aspects. I give you one example; when I made the decision to get out of my comfortzone, some of my friends actually ridiculed my decision. I know now that my decision made them became unsure of what was going on in our relationship, and at the same time unsure of the way that they themselves lived their lives. Long story short when you make a decision to do something else that most people do, and you’re happy about your decision, you’re confronted with being ridiculed for not living up to social conformity. Anyway – later on I observed my friends approaching a kind of similar decision, and that’s the fun part of it. Your decision to change make other people change on the long run. Robin Sharma put it this way “Change is hard at first, Messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end”. It surely make sense to me – also the famous quote from Gandhi; “be the change you wish to see in the world”. In this Gandhi was revealing a spiritual truth, that what you see in the outer world is a reflection of what you don’t see inside yourself. Your decision to change your life makes a ripple effect on other peoples life. So everything starts with you. That is why you can’t blame other people if you have a feeling of being stuck. Blaming other people – or ridiculing other people – is what C. G. Jung talked about in his concept of The Shadow. Blaming and ridiculing other people is a projection of what you don’t see inside yourself aka your Shadow.
When you close an old door to conformity…
I’ve experienced on some levels a change e.g. in some of my friendships. I’ve decided that I don’t want to waste my time on toxic relationships. The funny thing is, almost like when you declutter something from your home, being aware of who I want to spend my precious time with and choose not to spend time with, made space for some new relationships coming into my life. I’ve met so many lovely people that I’m more in resonance with, and have more deep and meaningful conversations with. When you’re in resonance with people there is no Psychological Games going on. The problem with Psychological Games is that it’s a waste of your precious time and very toxic too and besides that it only create dissonance in relationships. So the challenge is to close an old door to the Ordinary that keeps you stuck in your comfort zone, and open a new door to a more free, authentic and joyous life on your own terms. I am sure you won’t regret it, I for sure haven’t – the world opens up to you on a much larger scale. When you close an old door I suggest that you don’t take any advice from people who haven’t left their own comfort zone – they have a tendency to ridicule something they don’t have any idea of what’s about. Listen to your inner voice and live your life to the fullest.
